In a world of burning desire to prove oneself right. There is not much attention given to teaching Etiquettes of conversion. This ignorance towards etiquettes of conversation has given rise to way too many conflicts than one can imagine. From World Wars to Social and religious hatred are all results of this ignorance.
Not everyone is a gifted communicator. But this is something that can be learned. And this is something that must be taught and learned for the establishment of a truly human society. These etiquettes are also the building blocks of cascades of peace and love. They give rise to everlasting revolutions and changes. Here we are with 10 most important etiquettes of conversationto make you great at having fruitful conversation: –
1-LISTEN TO UNDERSTAND:
Before speaking in a conversation, it is very important to listen and understand others. This may sound vague, but the truth is most of us do not listen to understand. We listen to reply. When we listen with curiosity, we do not listen with the intent to reply. But for what is behind the words.
So, first listen attentively and understand each single word before you say anything.
2-DON’T CHALLENGE OTHERS:
Many of people do challenge others without even realizing it. Challenging others can agitate their pride and they become more prone to disagreeing. Even if you are sure that they are wrong, and you should challenge them. Avoid it. Try not to be a competitor but a sympathetic friend.
3-NEVER SAY “YOU ARE WRONG “
When you try to show their error bluntly, they are more likely to hold on to their position even if they come to realize that they are wrong. So, it is rather nice to say that “you might be mistaken” than telling them they are wrong.
4-ADMIT WHEN YOU ARE WRONG:
One of the simplest to do thing. But still pride makes it utmost difficult for us to accept our mistakes openly. We must accept the fact that we are mere human and making mistakes is inevitable for us. Do not hesitate to acknowledge your mistake. This will make them know that you are seeking the truth, and not trying to impose your own opinion.
5-BE HONEST IN PRAISE:
Praise the good qualities of the other person. This is a heart-softener. Do make sure that your praise is truthful and in its place. Always be honest in praise and in conversation. For with honesty lies integrity.
6-ASK THE CONFIRMATORY QUESTIONS:
Ask questions for which you expect an affirmative reply from the others. It will make them closer to the correct position you are trying to show them.
7- LEAVE THE FOOD FOR THE BIRD ON THE GROUND:
When you want to get your correct position over to the other party, it is a good idea to propose it in the form of a suggestion and let them arrive on it at their own. You cannot make everyone agree with you. So, do not try too hard.
8-ADAPT THE OTHER PERSON’S POSITION:
We are sometimes too much indulged in ourselves. We fail to see other person’s point of view. so, put yourself in the other person’s position to see what is wrong with it. If you see nothing wrong, then there is probably nothing to argue about.
9-HIGHLIGHT THE COMMON GROUNDS:
Even in the case of extreme enmity. There are still some things on which both the parties agree upon. These common things may seem insignificant. But highlighting them will help you resolve the issue more effectively. As this make establish an invisible link for communication interchange.
10-GET THE FEELINGS INVOLVED:
It is an inevitable fact that much of our decisions are based on emotions and feelings. Moving the other person’s felling in a positive way can bring about good results. Softly make the other person feel about the issue the same way as you do. This will establish a bod in between, allowing to resolve the issue and have a fruitful conversation.
Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around