Bullying– to seek harm or intimate someone who is seen vulnerable. A “fun game or a joke” which possibly manages to destroy many minds; many of us think that bullying is just a game and nothing important so we do intend to ignore it and the problems caused from it, especially when it comes to teenagers. I’m here to tell just how important it is for us grown adults to recognize these “teenager’s problems” and treat them as soon as possible, because if not taken care of, these incidents can stay in their minds and mentally ruin their life.
Why do people bully?
When it comes to bullies I guess they are divided into two; one who were also victims of bullying. People tend to become what they truly hate or are scared of. The victims tend to start hating a certain aspect of them and well, in order to deal with it, that people tend to target the same thing in others that they don’t accept in themselves, as the psychology of hate states.
The second type of bullies is the one who weren’t victims of any bulling previously. Such people just tend to want to show dominance and authority over others. That’s usually done by pointing out or making fun of people who seem weak or vulnerable. Jealously is also another reason, they target personality traits or other things that they themselves lack just to feel good. These people probably have faced a certain stressful situation causing them to behave this way; parents fighting, close relative’s death etc. In short, people bully to mask these negative feeling by bullying or abusing others instead of facing them head on.
How to tell if your child is being bullied?
Bullying isn’t always physical, it’s also verbal; the latter being the more dangerous one. The level of tolerance varies for everybody. There is no specific way to tell when your child is being bullied. Many teenagers, in fact, tend to hide such things in order to not burden their parents with these problems because society has made this picture that children or teenagers’ problems aren’t real or important.
Signs may include damaged or missing belongings, limited friends and unexplained injuries. Since verbal bullying isn’t something that can be seen, it can be a little hard to figure out. One way to tell if your child is a victim of bullying is to notice a change in behavior; it can be emotionally or physically. Maybe your child isn’t talking that much or isn’t eating that much. Look at their working patterns and sleeping schedules. Notice if they are getting sick too often, or are having unusual mood swings. Reach out to them and ask them about their school life. If this doesn’t work, ask their close friends; don’t directly ask about bullying, ask generally about their school life.
Why is it important to notice such changes?
Many of us believe that bullying just lives till school life, but the effects can last a lifetime if not dealt with. Worst case scenario caused by bullying can be the end of your child’s future; they could drop out of school or tend to go towards violence and destructive behaviors. Maximum of the victims become self-conscious and feel ashamed about themselves, they tend to get anxiety disorders and panic attacks. This usually happens when teenagers are bullied over something they don’t have control over, things like color, race, acne, body shape etc.
They can have chronic depression; a person can socially isolate themselves and have an increase of self-harm or worse suicidal thoughts. Research shows that victims of such behavior also might the risk of having attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). Moreover, bullying also has an effect on the eating and sleeping habits, leading to future health issues. Victims of bullying also tend to have difficulty in not only trusting others but in building relationships in the future.
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How to help your child recover from bullying?
First and foremost thing to do is to make sure your child knows that you are there for him/her, that they are not alone. Always be open when they come to talk about their issues without out ruling their problems as “nothing serious”. Give them the reassurance they need and tackle this issue with an open-mind.
Another way is talk to someone about it-could be the teacher at school or a mentor, anyone at school is better since they can further assist you in solving this issue.
Overall, it takes time for a child to get back on track after bullying, so make sure that they are given all the time and be patient with them. Many teenagers know and try their best to be normal but the pressure gets to them and ruins them. Therefore, give it time, help them mentally; increase their self-esteem and morale, help them grow out of being bullying in a fostering way.
Bullying is defiantly not something to be ignored. If you have the power to stop it, stop it! It damages our children beyond comprehension. Such “mere jokes” can easily ruin someone’s future so it is important that we focus on what we say and do and make sure to never hurt others; be it physically or emotionally.